What is the definition of success? Webster defines it as 1) satisfactory completion of something; 2) the gaining of wealth and fame; 3) one that succeeds. The good news is everyone can experience success according to definitions #1 and #3. That leaves #2 to think upon.
I’ve pondered on definition #2 since watching the final episode of The Celebrity Apprentice Sunday night where the winner was chosen on the basis of five criteria, one measurable and four based on opinion, which means the the winner resulted from Donald Trump’s arguably subjective selection.
A person can be a success without the “gaining of wealth,” e.g. Mother Teresa, obscure scientists, professors, teachers, doctors, inventors, etc. who make the world a better place but may not amass wealth.
A person can gain fame, such as the famous runway model who abuses her assistants or through possessing a particular talent. Joan Rivers is certainly famous and has a huge following. She is gifted with a quick mind and a quick (and frequently hurtful) wit. She’s written a play and has a jewelry business, therefore, according to definition #2, she must be a success.
Perhaps it is because I’m on my civility kick where I expect to be treated respectfully by employees I do business with that I find rewarding unkindness--lack of civility--objectionable. To me, public unkindness in the form of blatant nastiness is not acceptable. Calling people names, being constantly rude, not allowing a person to talk, constantly interrupting, swearing, telling untruths, debasing, deriding--these are not characteristics I ascribe to a winner. To me, these characteristics describe a real loser--no matter how famous and rich the person is.
Being able to turn the tears on and off signifies great acting, not sincerity. Calling another dishonorable does not make the caller honorable.
Unfortunately, a daughter was born without the talents of the mother yet has adopted those same very unflattering characteristics which were evidenced by almost every close-up she had during the event and crescendoed when she was fired. In addition to being embarrassed for Melissa, I actually felt bad for her.
The public persona of Donald Trump is one of a no nonsense, brilliantly successful, yet kind, man who finds the best in everyone (except Rosie). We, the public, see The Donald as a master of civility. Ivanka and Don, his two older children, also display their brightness and human sensitivity through their pointed, edgy questions to the participants. So why did he pick Joan Rivers? Because she is 75 and is energetic? Because Piers Morgan, a successful, yet equally unkind man, told him to?
The conundrum I see and can’t figure out is Trump’s admiration of people like Amarosa and Piers? Maybe he’d like to be openly mean also, but I doubt that. I did appreciate his sensitivity when he dealt with Dennis Rodman.
The bottom line for me regarding success consists of specific ingredients among which are 1) accomplishment in a particular area and 2) sensitivity to others. If either of these characteristics is missing, the term is notoriety, not success.
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